Welcome to the World’s Smallest Dungeon

Welcome to the world’s smallest dungeon.

Original Post: Posted on September 24, 2014 by Bobbie Morgan in Relationship Ramblings // 0 Comments

 

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Seriously. This is it. It’s not a joke. It’s not a toy. The contents of this one-pound box contain 27 items that can be used 1,000 different ways.

Ming Destiny is the creator of the Pocket Dungeon. She lives in Maui and has been in the kink lifestyle for about 25 years.

“There isn’t a lot of BDSM education in Maui, so I travel to conferences and bring back and share what I learn,” she says. “I’ve been to about 50 conferences. But I was packing about 25 pounds of gear in my checked baggage, which is half of the 50-pound limit the airlines allow. I made a challenge to myself to get all my toys down to one pound.”

She started with a sunglass-sized leather case that contained your core scene essentials.

A quality blindfold was the first and most essential item that she added to the kit. “A blindfold is essential,” she says. “With a blindfold, you establish trust early. You heighten the senses and you heighten the anticipation of the unknown. But quality is important. I wanted deep eye pockets, making it comfortable for people who wear contacts, make up or have long lashes.”

Cuffs are essential, too. The Pocket Dungeon contains two leather cuffs that attach to either the quick release carabineers or the heavy duty padlocks in the kit. These are also designed to work with the door jams, leather straps with D-rings that are slipped over the top of a closed door to create a quick St. Andrew’s cross.

To get so many items into something so pocket friendly, most of the items in the kit have to do at least double duty. The bandana in the kit serves as a gag and a cleanup rag. The kubaton, a martial arts weapon, also has a rounded edge for pressure point play. With just a little twist there is a safety knife inside that has a dull side that’s great for sensation play.

There’s enough rope to be used for CBT, a strap-on harness, a chest harness, or breast bondage. There’s also a set of finger claws for sensation play and a set of nipple clamps. Attach the padlocks on the bottom of the clamps, and voila … instant weights. One of the padlocks can also be used to lock up your Pocket Dungeon.

“You lock it up, slip it in a drawer, and your kids can’t get into it,” Ming says.

But by far the most versatile piece in the Pocket Dungeon is the Benyi Jou.

Never heard of it? It’s because Ming has the patent to this unique tool on the BDSM toy landscape.

The Benyi Jou, is a retractable telescoping set of steel poles that is easily used as a cane. When it is extended, the combination of the length and the narrow end can deliver a lovely sensual sting. Slide the segments in to each other and you can play with heavier and thuddier sensations. This is at least four canes in one.

When collapsed The Benyi Jou becomes a handle for all sorts or mischievous play. Attachments include a riding crop, chain tickler, leather flogger and a light snappy sensation leather fall and cracker attachment that makes for a very workable, powerful and portable whip.

“I thought it was important to keep things versatile so you can easily change up play to keep things interesting for both the Dominant and submissive,” Ming says.

Creating the Pocket Dungeon has been four years in the making. Word-of-mouth demand for the Pocket Dungeon spurred it into production. When Ming launched a $5,000 Indiegogo campaign last summer, she collected almost $10,000. She brought a prototype to a trade show. Williams Trading Co.picked it up as an exclusive distributor.

“The Pocket Dungeon is a great example of mainstream meets innovation.” says Scott Dantis, director of sales and marketing for Williams Trading. “S&M was once considered the dark side of sex. Such a misconception! S&M is the use of physical stimulation to increase endorphin production in the brain to heighten a person’s arousal and ultimately their orgasm. All of the dungeon toys a person would use for physical stimulation are now available in a discreet leather carrying case that’s perfect for travel or enjoyment on the go. We are pleased to work directly with Ming and Michael, the inventors of the Pocket Dungeon, and applaud their creativity to bring this kit to the BDSM market.”

The Pocket Dungeon created quite a stir. People loved the kit, but soon Ming and Williams Trading found they were inundated with requests to buy some of the items separately.

The even smaller Mini Benyi offers the key components of the Pocket Dungeon at a pocketbook-friendly price that has the deep pocket, leather blindfold, Benyi Jou, chain tickler, leather flogger and the whip attachment all in an even smaller pencil case size.

Look for the Pocket Dungeon and Mini Benyi at a sex toy store or online retailer soon.

AGWDM WT pocket dungeon banner 250This article is brought to you by Williams Trading Co. All opinions and information are genuinely my own.

Williams Trading’s Pocket Dungeon Creator Ming Destiny Chats With Andy Powell

An interview from JRL Charts with Ming Destiny, the creator of Pocket Dungeon

Original Article: Andy Powell, Staff Writer
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HONOLULU, HI – Ming Destiny is a lover of art, science, sex, nature, leather and travel. She created the Pocket Dungeon because she loves travel and she loves play.

ming-bio-pic-cropped-303x170Ming has been working on Pocket Dungeon for 4 years and has raised all the money for it through her crowd funding campaign on Indiegogo.

In fact Ming is also the producer and founder of a 5 day leather kink event called Leather and Leis, and she regularly hosts parties and classes furthering the BDSM lifestyle in the islands of Hawaii.

Plus, Ming is the CEO of PD Kilts, a kilt company that her and her boy have started offering high quality kilts at very affordable prices.

She identifies as a Kinky, Quirky Queer erotic adventurer, Ming lives in Hawaii with her slave of 4 years, and her 2 Dogs.

Well I was delighted to hear that Ming would chat with me about the sensational Pocket Dungeon which is exclusively distributed through Williams Trading Co.

Please welcome Ming Destiny to JRL CHARTS.

thepocketdungeonkitopenAndy Powell: Ming welcome to JRL CHARTS. Lets talk about the fabulous Pocket Dungeon now available exclusively through Williams Trading Co. How did you score such a major distributor in the Adult Entertainment Industry to move your brand through retail?

Ming: We went to Xbiz, and there was so much excitement about us! By the end of the weekend, we were absolutely overwhelmed. We had enthusiastic interest from everyone and from everywhere. India, Switzerland, Hungary, Canada, Spain, France, the Ukraine and England, to be honest it was the first time we saw the product in a global market, and as you can imagine it was over whelming. Then we met the folks at Williams Trading Co. Rich and Scott were just so friendly and enthusiastic and they saw the vision instantly. They not only saw what was in front of them but they saw the big picture and the many steps to get it there. They told us that they would help us launch because we knew there was so much we did not know we did not know, they said they would walk us through it, and they have! Williams Trading Co has helped every step of the way as we get the “kinks” out of manufacturing and has offed us so much invaluable advice. They invited us not just in to their product line database, but in to their family. They are an amazing company it feels wonderful to be with them. There is a reason they get so many awards and have been in business 40 years. You could say it was love at first sight.

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Andy Powell: The Ms. Ming’s Mini Benyi kit is an even smaller version of the original, featuring the Leather Blindfold, Leather Flogger, Ball Chain Flogger, and the Benyi Bull Whip. How did you come up with the concept to produce the Pocket Dungeon and the Mini Benyi Kit?

Ming: I came up with the idea of Pocket Dungeon and the Mini Benyi because I travel a lot and I love to play. I have play partners all over the USA. But I was finding that 25 pounds of the 50 pounds of my luggage was all of my kink gear. So I made this kit for myself and when folks saw it, it blew their minds. Also I also LOVE playing in nature. Hence the tag line “anywhere you dare” because you really can take your toys anywhere. The Mini Benyi is and even smaller and more compact kit which features our most versatile toy: The Benyi Jou: Translation Unique Whipping Cane and 3 of its attachments. Leather Flogger, Ball Chain Flogger and the Mini Bull Whip to give 4 toys in one! Plus we added the Leather black out blindfold and put it all together in a lovely leather case.

Andy Powell: The Pocket Dungeon is just that…a collection of fetish pleasure products packaged in a high quality leather pocket friendly case. I don’t know any other brand that his perfected this concept. How many different collections in this format do you have available for retailers?”

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Ming: Thank you for asking that question! We have so many things in development that are variations on our brand and philosophy, “Travel sized kinky toys… ‘Anywhere you dare’”. What is very important to us right now is to be sure that we have perfected the quality and to get the word out about the Pocket Dungeon. You will be seeing a number of new offering in the coming months. Pocket Pokies, the Gag and Tag, and the Wristicuff.

Andy Powell: What have you found that has surprised you about the Adult Novelty marketplace in the USA?

Ming: Great question. I was absolutely surprised to find was that most adult novelty stores really don’t know and understand BDSM. They sell the products, but they don’t understand them. They don’t understand what a good scene is and how to achieve it. For example….. I heard many times that folks did not know about the science of brain chemistry aspect of BDSM play. We play with Oxytocin, Adrenaline, Dopamine and Serotonin. These are the feel good natural brain drugs and there are ways to access them to achieve amazing results. Deepening a relationship, bonding, soaring high, and self-confidence are just a few of the many benefits of this play.

Andy Powell: Are you finding retailers receptive to the Pocket Dungeon brand?

Ming: Yes indeed! We are being seen as the cross over product that folks have been looking for. Their customers are coming in them after reading 50 shades and wanting toys and more importantly they want to understand how to use them. Taking home a paddle and adding it to sex is honestly just going to piss the recipient off if they are totally new to BDSM and don’t know how to use it properly. There is an art and a science to a good scene, and we are talking about how to achieve that by making the science behind BDSM erotic.

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Andy Powell: Retailers love demos because they can put a custom display of the Pocket Dungeon in their stores and, for e-retailers, they can stream the demo at their online stores. Do you have demos available for retail and if so how many?

Ming: We have created lots of instructional videos on how to use the items in the kit but also we take the education process one step further by offering mini classes and play ideas for people so that they can really integrate this lifestyle into their sex lives in a holistic and relationship enriching way. After all that is at the core what our industry is about, healthy sex lives and happier relationships.

Andy Powell: Will Williams Trading and Pocket Dungeon be producing a display case for the Pocket Dungeon collection?

Ming: I will have a point to purchase display developed soon. I have given a tremendous amount of time researching to make it as easy, expensive and informative possibly. I know there is a learning curve to all of this, and I want to make it as easy and efficient as possible for everyone.

Andy Powell: With the Gay Pride Season in full swing, have you and your marketing team thought about promoting the Pocket Dungeon at any of the Gay Pride Festivals in the United States this year and if so, which ones?”

Ming: We are advertising in the Gay Pride addition of the Williams Trading Company catalog and even though I am in Hawaii I go to 10 to 20 kink, queer, poly events around the country a year. I love talking to and educating people and showing them Pocket Dungeon and I LOVE using it on people. We will be at the San Diego Pride Festival next month in fact so Please come find the Pocket Dungeon/ PD Kilts booth and I will happily show you what all the excitement is about.

Andy Powell: Kewl….Now Ming I have to ask this one…With all of the competition in retail with the various brands of fetish products, what makes Pocket Dungeon stand out above all the rest?

Ming: Well I think we stand out in two ways: First is the unique pocket-friendly nature of all our toys and secondly we are talking about the how and why of BDSM. We see ourselves as a travelers brand, but we also realize we are a cross over product. In many cases we will be the first set of toys and the first introduction to BDSM for most folks and we are taking that responsibility seriously. We want to make BDSM accessible and enjoyable for everybody. Our videos are friendly and informative and every Pocket Dungeon has an illustrated 20 page booklet where we go in to detail about how to do this play safely.

Andy Powell: What can you tell the retailers that are reading this right now about the Pocket Dungeon collections that they can not do without?

Ming: The Pocket Dungeon is our flagship product. We have named the company and our brand philosophy around those two simple but powerful words. More will be coming, displays will be coming, but start with the Pocket Dungeon and watch as your customers eyes light up as you tell and show them everything that has been engineered into this beautiful leather sunglasses sized case.

Andy Powell: What do you think retailers should know about the ever expanding BDSM market?

Ming: I think it is important to look at the young people, the next generation. More and more I find that they see BDSM as just a part of a healthy sex life. They want to explore like young people do, and they want to be a good partner. In the past that meant having dinner on the table at 6:00. Today it means trying new sex toys, new positions and new dynamics. Today’s generation is not constrained by a lot of the old societal shame, and so you see them experimenting and exploring more than ever before to find out what fits their personal style.

Ming Continues…Remember Andy…It is important to recognize we are not talking about a fad here. We are witnessing the next evolution in sexuality; playing with power. The retailers that take the time to really understand this new market will be ahead of the curve. I truly believe the strides that were made in gay acceptance of the last decade will be what we can look forward to in this coming decade for kinksters and BDSM players.

Andy Powell: How can retailers stay on top of your special promotions through Williams Trading? Can they follow you on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin….?

Ming: We are on Facebook, Twitter, and Fetlife.

Andy Powell: What can Gay and Lesbian Adult consumers expect when they purchase the Pocket Dungeon collections?

Ming: Authenticity, because I identify as queer and I live in the leather community, it was very important to us to not skimp anywhere. We did not want to make a cheap novelty. To the very best of our ability we strive to make the highest quality product that we possibly can. We searched and innovated our kit’s components. We insisted on quality napa leather and quality stitching, stainless steel hardware and iron for the padlocks. The whole process was set back a whole year as we sent back thousands of sample items because we kept raising the bar with the factory’s we were working with. We believe in this product, I am always amazed at how well it stands up to all styles of play.

Andy Powell: Amy, thank you for chatting with me here on JRL CHARTS today. Our Fetish readers are going to be thrilled to check out the Pocket Dungeon collection and, for retailers, they are going to enjoy the revenue they are going to make when they begin stocking the Pocket Dungeon in their boutiques nationwide.

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Contact your Williams Trading Co. sales rep for ordering information at 800-423-8587.

Williams Trading Co. is a full line Adult Wholesale Distributor with over 40 years of excellence in the industry, carrying over 20,000 different items; with new products added weekly. Check out www.williamstradingco.com for its simple and effective online ordering system, backed by a knowledgeable sales staff. Over the years, the company has expanded to offering direct drop-shipping services for online retailers, with the launch of MuffsandCuffs.com.

Williams Trading Co. to Launch Pocket Dungeon-Targets the Expanding BDSM Market at 2014 ILS

Take Your Dungeon to go, Pocket Dungeon is a unique S&M high end toy. Exclusive to Williams Trading Co., Pocket Dungeon, will debut to the industry at ILS 2014. The Pocket Dungeon is the first collection of bondage and S&M toys discreetly housed in a supple, leather carrying case perfect for play on the go. Pocket Dungeon weighs less than a pound so its non-intimidating size is great for beginners. However, Pocket Dungeon holds a whopping 17 separate toys, exquisitely designed by and for S&M lifestyle.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BAcz5gGQlmg “Pocket Dungeon is a great example of mainstream meets innovation.” says Erin MacCord, Marketing & Vendor Liaison. “S&M was once considered the dark side of sex. Such a misconception! S&M is the use of physical stimulation to increase endorphin production in the brain to heighten a person’s arousal and ultimately their orgasm. All of the “dungeon toys” a person would use for physical stimulation are now available in a discreet leather carrying case perfect for travel or enjoyment on the go.”   The Pocket Dungeon is a marvel of engineering. To get so much fun into something so pocket friendly, took years of research, development and design. It all started with the invention of the patent-pending Benyi Jou (pronounced Benny Jow). The Benyi Jou is made of high quality stainless steel and acts as a retractable cane. It comes with an assortment of tip attachments so it easily transforms into a whip, crop, cane, cat-o-nine tail or flogger.   The Pocket Dungeon will be offered in (2) convenient travel kits. A mini kit includes a blindfold, Benyi Jou, floggers and various tips. A full kit includes a blindfold, wrist cuffs, claws, Benyi Jou, Benyi Bullwhip, nipple clamps, carabineers, door attachment, gag, mini flashlight, padlocks, ball chain flogger and a kubaton for teasing.   “We are pleased to work directly with Ming and Michael, the inventors of the Pocket Dungeon, and applaud their creativity to bring this kit to the BDSM market.” says Rich Pyne, SVP of Muffs & Cuffs. “The Pocket Dungeon will be offered exclusively from Williams Trading Co. and available to all brick and mortar dealers online for our Muffs & Cuffs e-commerce partners.” Pocket Dungeon will be displayed at the 2014 International Lingerie Show, Williams Trading Co. booths 654-656. Pocket dungeon Mings Pocket Dungeon Mini

Williams Trading Co. is a full line Adult Wholesale Distributor with over 40 years of excellence in the industry, carrying over 20,000 different items; with new products added weekly. Check out www.williamstradingco.com for its simple and effective online ordering system, backed by a knowledgeable sales staff. Over the years the company has expanded to offering direct drop-shipping services for online retailers, with the launch of MuffsandCuffs.com. ###

Pocket Dungeon a New BDSM

Help Make the Pocket Dungeon a Possibility!

By lunaKM on July 5, 2013

Help Make the Pocket Dungeon a Possibility!Aloha, I am Ming, a lover of art, science, sex, nature, leather and travel…and hopefully you will see equal parts of those passions, in this creation, The Pocket Dungeon.

Too many times I found myself in a situation where the opportunity for play would arise out of nowhere and I did not have my toys. Sometimes I would be hiking in nature or sometimes I would be traveling on the mainland…. and it even happened once while on a motorcycle ride around the Big Island! I just never knew when life would surprise with the opportunity to play.

Imagine you are packing a toy bag with all the basics… Blindfolds, cuffs, nipple clamps, bandana, Whip, Cane, Ball chain flogger, Leather flogger, Safety Knife , Kubaton, 5 Claws, Door Jams, riding crop and 2 Flash lights….and now imagine everything fitting into a leather case the size of a sunglasses case!
How on earth is that possible? Well come to the video and see:
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Pocket Dungeon is a whole toy bag you can fit in your pocket. 16 different play options are neatly stored away in the beautiful hand crafted leather case, and your PD allows you to play at what ever level you desire… from beginner to advanced.

Pocket Dungeon includes:

  • A black out blindfold
  • A cane that can offer 3 separate sensations, from light stingy to heavy thud
  • Attachment points that turn any door that closes into a St. Andrews Cross
  • A safety knife that transforms into a kubaton for quality punching, and pressure point play
  • Tweezer nipple clamps with adjustable tensionioners and attachable weights
  • Cotter Cuffs that clip to themselves or our door attachment points
  • Two floggers, a ball chain flogger and and leather flogger, from warm up to heavy play
  • A lovely set of 5 stainless steel claws
  • A surprisingly accurate whip, that can be used in tight spaces like a tiny apt or a crowded dungeon
  • A bandana, that can be used as a flag gag or clean up rag
  • A riding crop to give you a little extra reach
  • A set of nose hooks that double as an open mouth gag
  • 2 flashlights one red and white to set the mood or find things in the dark
  • And we love to listen to your ideas, you wanted to be able to lock it away from tiny prying eyes, so now it locks by placing the zippers together and sliding the padlock through the holes.

Ming and her boy Angel live in Maui, Hawaii. Ming also is the founder of Leather & Leis a pansexual kinkevent in Hawaii where folks show up for fun and leave with family. Ming and Angel host local parties, and BBQs, teach classes, and run another awesome, kink friendly endeavor they want you to enjoy: PD Kilts.

Note from lunaKM – I have been watching this product for awhile now because I’d love to have one! I hope you help Ming pick up production and get this out for mass distribution!

It’s Bachelor and Bachelorette Season, What are the Best Sex Toys to recommend for the Starting Couple?

What are the Best Sex Toys to recommend for the Starting Couple?

One of the most important times of a couple’s life is sharing physical intimacy and creating an emotional bond during the initial stages of their sexual relationship.  As a new couple great sex creates a strong emotional bond that helps to reinforce the marriage. Introducing toys and romance enhancements to your partner at this time can be a bit scary. Here’s our suggestions for some simple and playful ways to start your new relationship with.

Relive Your First Dance as Husband & Wife With OhmiBod

ohmi bofA newlywed couple can play the music from their wedding reception and come together with the Oh Mi Bod. This high tech vibe will vibrate to the rhythm of your selected music with a built in speed control. When its wireless transmitter is connected to an iPod® / iPhone™ (or any mp3 player), the vibe will pulsate to the music giving the user a unique dual sensory experience making every song truly unique. Crank up the speakers, lay down with the headphones and have a great orgasm.

Marriage Tastes Great With Doc Johnson and Nature Labs

Tease your spouse’s sensitive areas with Tingle Gele by Doc Johnson, the flavorful water-based gel that serves as both massage lotion and lubricant. Rub it wherever you wish, and feel the glow of intimate attention! Add some sparks to your bedroom activities! Apply a small amount to those sensitive areas and enjoy a slight tingling and numbing sensation. It will propel your pleasure to new plateaus. Tingle Gele acts as Massage Lotion or Lubricant.

downloadntThe Nature Lovin’ Lubricant KOALA line is one of the finest, premium aromatic / flavored lubricants ever made and has been featured in Cosmo! KOALA is a top quality flavored lubricant that comes in fabulous layered flavors and delicious scents such as Banana Custard, Orange Creamsicle and S’mores.

 

 

The Perfect Wedding Gift; Garden of Eden Intimacy Kits-Where Great Sex Begins

Kit_Box_NATURALGoing slow during the first night is important, and introducing a large sex toy can be intimidating. Williams Trading Co. offer (7) new subtle intimacy kits that allow a new couple to explore their playful side without going over the top. Each kit comes with a tongue vibe, or a bullet vibe along with feather for tickling, dice for intimate play and silk bag to store your goodies after use. The best part about these intimacy kits is that they are discretely packaged in gift box that can easily be slipped under your pillow for the first night, and they don’t scream “huge sex toy”!

Play By Your Own Rules With Minna Life

LimonProducts_LARGE_largeMinna believes that there’s no single pattern for pleasure. We create undemanding products that respond to intuitive cues, making it easy for individuals and couples to play, explore and discover pleasure of their own design. We believe different moments call for different pleasures, and deliver products with freedom to match any mood.

Limon is Minna’s newest creation. It blends our revolutionary squeeze technology with the highest level of craftsmanship and design for a spontaneous and sexy experience that works so well for new (and maybe shy) couples.

Bend Over Beginner Kit – Start Slow with this Simple Starter Kit

Tantus_BendOverBeginner_Group_new_baseMaybe your new husband wants to experience having his prostate massaged? Maybe your new wife fantasizes about taking control in the bedroom? The Bend Over Intermediate Kit by Tantus is the perfect way to explore strap-on sex. This kit has two smooth 100% ultra-premium silicone dildos, the Medium and Large Silk, and comes with a vibrating velvet harness that is comfortable, adjustable (fits up to 60 inches hips) and machine washable. It also comes with an O-ring to accommodate multiple sized toys, as well as a One Touch Vibe that fits snugly into a pocket on the front of the harness for stimulation to both the strap-on wearer and their partner.

Tantus uses a platinum based silicone, which is more expensive but also of a far superior, medical-grade quality. All Tantus toys are hypoallergenic, non-toxic and free of phthalates. They are also made to last a lifetime with minimal care. Silicone is odorless, boilable, bleachable and even dishwasher safe.

BDSM in the Bedroom or during your Honey Moon with Pocket Dungeon

Mings Pocket Dungeon MiniPocket Dungeon is a whole toy bag you can fit in your pocket. 16 different play options are neatly stored away in the beautiful hand crafted leather case, and your PD allows you to play at what ever level you desire… from beginner to advanced. Your away on your honey moon and in the mood for BDSM session, what better way to play than to bring your own Pocket Dungeon travel kit with you and entice your lover with different sensations.

Pocket Dungeon includes:

  • A black out blindfold
  • A cane that can offer different sensations, from light stingy to heavy thud
  • Leather straps that turn any door that closes into two hard points
  • A safety knife that transforms into a kubaton for quality punching, and pressure point play
  • Tweezer nipple clamps with adjustable tensionioners and attachable weights
  • Cotter Cuffs that clip to themselves or our door attachment points
  • Two floggers, a ball chain flogger and and leather flogger, from warm up to heavy play
  • A lovely set of 5 stainless steel claws
  • A surprisingly accurate whip, that can be used in tight spaces like a tiny apt or a crowded dungeon
  • A Bandana, that can be used as a flag gag or clean up rag
  • A Riding crop to give you a little extra reach

To purchase any of these brands on a wholesale basis, please visit Williams Trading Co to set up a new Wholesale account.

The Pocket Dungeon

My name is Ming I am and artist, inventor and erotic adventurer. As an erotic adventurer I made the Pocket Dungeon for myself because I was traveling a lot, and half of the weight of my luggage were just my kink essentials, cuffs, blindfold, canes floggers, rope ect… I decided to make a light weight and compact travel kit, With the goal being as versatile and compact as it could possibly be and if possible weighing in at under a pound….I started by thinking to myself what I wanted the kit to include I spent days in deep thought about all the things I like to have with me for a good SM scene.

What is a good SM scene?. A good SM scene uses the body’s own pharmacopeia of endorphins, such as dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, and oxytocin to create a euphoric state of being. A good SM scene is one where one person is decidedly the “Top”, or is “Dominant”, and the other person is decidedly the “Bottom” or a “Submissive.” Surprisingly there is a science to what arouses us and why, and many BDSM players have learned how to use this information to push the boundaries beyond what we know to be pleasurable with their partner.

Trust: It is important to negotiate what you do and do not want to do. Talk about hard (not flexible) and soft limits (somewhat flexible)  a head of time, to create parameters of what will be safe and enjoyable to both people.

Safewords: The bottom can best relax if deep down she knows that if she says a word in code that the top will stop. We recommend Red, Yellow and Green as a way to engage with each other without either person needing to step out of their roles. Red means stop right now. Yellow means proceed with caution and green means “This is rocking my world!”. The top must stop at red or trust will be broken and future play will likely be off the table. Agree to this ahead of time.

Role play: Naughty nurse, Strict school teacher, or Dominant, any person of authority that pushes the buttons of your lover. Remember that by being in “roles”, you permission each other to explore more freely.

Sensations: Sensations are the gate keeper of the euphoric states of the mind, hard, soft, stingy, thuddy, pain, pleasure it is all just sensations, and when they are delivered by someone you trust you can transform pain into a door way that opens to new horizons in erotic pleasure.

Intimacy Unlike what you see in porn most Dominants are very  loving, and hyper- aware that the submissive is trusting them and not wanting to break that trust. Also from a science perspective you want the experience to be a pleasurable on for the submissive, and this can include soft petting to amp up the serotonin release, and stimulation of the genitals to keep the sub in a heightened state of arousal which makes her able to withstand torment longer and enjoy it more. PD Intel: Being cold and cruel will not achieve the desired effect of extreme arousal for most players.