HOW TO SPANK AS EXPLAINED BY YOUR BEST FRIEND
-by Metis Black
Spanking is not an unskilled art. Many write about it in books, flirt with it in social media posts, but recently I’ve realized how rare it is to find someone who really knows how to spank.
A few smacks on the ass does not make a spanking. A good spanking session can last up to 2 or 3 hours. Usually combined with some fingering- and broken up by some rearranging of positions and use of other tools, sometimes with a crescendo to full contact sex.
Tools often come into the arena. Some are easy to wield, like paddles and straps. Some are more advanced. I just marvel when watching experts who know the proper use of these toys, like canes and Dragons Tails… but this is a beginners lesson.
Like most givers (tops or spankers), I know from experience that if you’ve never been spanked correctly you don’t know how it should be done. I’m going to attempt to give you the verbal steps.
First, and most importantly, when you begin a traditional spanking of your friends behind, you cup the hand. You do this for several reasons Foremost is that the hand needs to last the duration of the spanking. Trust me; if you want your hand to hurt let someone bite it! Don’t waste the pain on giving the spanking. You could be causing nerve damage.
A cupped hand also has more control over the force or gentleness with which it strikes. You want variation during a spanking. As a very special recipient, you don’t want to feel like it is predictable- you want to lose yourself to this other person’s will and domination.
The cupping also of course makes the best sound!
Secondly, a spanking is very much regionalized. Think of the ass as divided into zones. Each cheek should be warmed up with light yet firm smacks. No one should be given a WHACK without having first given a warm up. Think of it as foreplay.
You want to vary your hand placement of the surface of each cheek so that the whole ass has been warmed and neither cheek has missed any of the warm up.
So we have a firm, basic, cupped handed warm up. Where attention has been given to both cheeks- just like breasts they need equal attention. The most sensitive part of the ass is at the inner thigh. To get close to the genitalia is to get close to nirvana.
When spanking a male though- be careful of those balls hanging down. It’s been my experience that very few men really like having their balls spanked (feel free to refute this).
After you have the area warm and colored, mix up the impact strength. Go light and then hard and then light again. Creating variation is the key to a great spanking. It’s just as important as moving about the edges of the bulls eye. You don’t want to just hit one point over and over, and you don’t want to feel just one predictable pounding.
A paddle, like the Tantus <font=”35bdb2″>Thwack or Pelt, is perfect for use during a spanking warm up. The flexibility of the silicone paddles makes it very simple to get repetitive motions and it’s oh so easy on the hand.
The benefit with these Tantus Paddles is that they are 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone. Instead of dampening sensation, like leather, the silicone transmits that energy. They can be also be thoroughly sterilized by boiling, bleaching or putting in the dishwasher. With a little care, they will last a lifetime.
Remember as spanker, you are responsible for your partner’s sensual experience. You want light patting with a paddle to begin with and then start with a few medium taps. A hard whack is only for someone who is warmed up and consents to more otherwise that one whack may be the last you get to ever give them.
Spank with confidence and with care.